Starting a conversation with an aging loved one about adult day services can be emotional and challenging at times. Many seniors value their independence, and discussions might initially be met with some resistance.
Fortunately, approaching the topic with empathy, honesty, and compassion can be a more positive experience for everyone. Get practical tips for having a conversation about adult day programs in this blog from Abe’s Garden Community.
7 Tips for Talking to an Aging Loved One About Adult Day Services
Choose a calm and relaxing time to have a conversation when you are both less likely to be interrupted or rushed. It’s also best to avoid discussing the topic during stressful moments or when either of you is feeling tired or frustrated.
Keep the following tips in mind during your discussion:
#1 Gather Information Before Your Conversation
Do your research about adult day programs before you speak with your loved one. Gather details from websites or in-person tours so you can share helpful information with your loved one, such as benefits, variety of activities, transportation options, and costs.
#2 Use a Positive Approach
Share news that you found an adult day center where older adults get together for social opportunities, engaging activities, and nutritious meals. Ask if your loved one would be willing to try it out rather than telling them what they need to do. Present options so they feel involved in the decision.
#3 Focus on the Benefits
Talk about the benefits of adult day programs, for both your loved one and your own family. Here are some examples to get you started:
- New friends
- Life-enriching activities
- Lifelong learning opportunities
- Specially prepared meals with peers
- Wellness programs
And you can share that you’ll gain time to tend to other responsibilities and will likely feel less stressed and have more energy.
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#4 Show Empathy and Patience
Acknowledge that this change may be scary and cause anxious feelings. Show patience and allow your loved one time to process the idea. Be understanding if they experience a range of emotions and remind them that you understand and will always be there to support them.
#5 Be Honest with Your Concerns
Your aging loved one may not realize that you’re feeling concerned about their quality of life and your ability to care for them round the clock. Be truthful about the reasons why you feel adult day programming is worth considering. You may be worried about safety, social isolation, or caregiver burnout.
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#6 Speak with Love and Compassion
Make it clear that you love and care about their health and well-being – and that you want them to experience a high quality of life with meaningful connections with others.
#7 Provide Ongoing Support
If the initial conversation doesn’t go well, try to give your loved one more time to think things through and encourage them to share concerns and questions that they have. With patience, understanding, and clear communication, you can work together to find a solution that best suits your loved one’s changing needs and respects their dignity.
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